What does it mean to be a romantic these days? Because of the desire for ideal love promoted through Disney fairytales, romantic comedies, social media, and reality television, our society is at a loss on where to look for a model of healthy partnership capable of withstanding the test of time.

What is a healthy relationship, and why are they so difficult to find and sustain? Many people struggle to find lasting satisfaction in their quest for love, often feeling the tug between their fantasy of what a relationship should be and the reality of how relationships materialize. I work with singles and couples to help unpack the individual complexities associated with this dichotomy.

Through the lens of family systems and intergenerational patterns, unconscious complexes, somatic experiencing, and transpersonal personality theory, I help people more deeply understand themselves and their relationship experiences from a higher perspective. They're able to grow, heal, and develop into a more fulfilling relationship beyond their current status quo.

These remote or in-person sessions are for one hour and focus on working with individuals and couples seeking to more deeply explore their psyches and traverse their inner romantic landscape in a customized way. 

These half-day or full-day intensive retreats focus on working with individuals and couples seeking more time for in-depth exploration of the unique specifics of their situation than is typically allowed in a one hour session.

These half-day or full-day workshops focus on working with larger groups of individuals and couples seeking to learn more about The Modern Day Romantic's philosophy, including the original Levels of Love developmental model. 

Though there are a number of theories and approaches already established, I have yet to find something that feels as encompassing as the developmental model Levels of Love. For me, a pathway to growth must account for where a person is at developmentally in their own psychological journey, as well as provide a structure for how to continue to progress and heal the wounds each person invariably carries around from their past experiences, as these wounds are the very things that trip them up in their relationships.

Instead of projecting these wounds or blind spots onto the partner, Levels of Love identifies how to meet people where they are and where to go next. Further, in understanding where desires for specific types of romantic relationships come from, people are more empowered to author their own notions of a relationship that works for them, rather than being destined to live out an unrealistic, inherited, impersonal, or prescriptive fairytale love story.

I see a world where romantic love is seen as a catalyst for self-transformation that serves to take one deeper into their own psychological terrain. Within this space, there is a dynamic tension between self and other. There are currently very few healthy models of what a relationship with both oneself and with a partner looks like.

I seek to give future generations something more than the status quo of Hollywood love to strive to actualize. The quest for romantic love contains a seedling of divinity. By understanding the alchemical nature of this desire, the transpersonal Self within each individual is allowed to more consciously emerge

As a lifelong romantic with a Midwestern upbringing, my life's mission has become a quest to reconcile the seemingly impossible feat of understanding romantic love and the various plot twists, turns, synchronicities, and heartbreaks I have both seen and experienced throughout my own life, as well as through my time accompanying others on their paths. 

By studying family systems as a Marriage and Family Therapist, exploring transpersonal and humanistic psychology through my PhD research, and training and participating in a number of experiential practices and wisdom traditions, I feel I bring a unique perspective to the plight of the Modern Day Romantic. Through my work, I endeavor to put the hope back into the "hopeless romantic." The key to doing so is to understand what the higher aim of the romantic's longing is actually about: to become more wholly themselves.

Send me a message if you'd like to know more about working together.

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